Have you ever felt like you weren’t enough for someone? It could have been in a relationship, friendship, or even to a family member. At some point, we have all felt less than what we’re truly worth. We use a common excuse that sounds like:
“I’m just human, this is who I am…”
Or we simply compare ourselves to others, in which we start to desire their life more than we care to live our own. Truth is, since junior high I seemed to struggle with my self-image, what I thought were weight problems, and never feeling like I was enough for anyone. I was in and out of trying to lose weight and be someone who I really wasn’t. 5 years ago I signed up for my first gym membership and that was the year that I became obsessed with 5am mornings at the gym, pre-workout and protein shake. I had lost about 15lbs that year and a year later, in 2015, I continued to go to the gym and I maintained the weight off. I remember that year I wore myself out by doing two-a-days at the gym and before I knew it, I became a “gym rat” as they call it. I was squatting a few 45 weight plates and people began to tell me that I was losing a lot of weight. In my eyes, it wasn’t enough. I wanted six-pack abs and a skinny waist. But who was I really trying to impress with my body image? Myself or was I trying to fit into the world’s standards and what was considered beautiful to them?
As for my skin, I was always self-conscious about my it and I didn’t feel comfortable in it. I remember times where my skin would be “so bad” that I cried in my room because I felt so uncomfortable. Although people would tell me “it’s not even that bad”, it was always something I struggled with because I looked at myself through my own lens. I wanted to be like the other girls who didn’t have to “try” to look pretty, I always thought about how others saw me. But what I’m about to reveal to you, is how I’ve come to accept myself for who I really am and how I’ve stopped allowing the opinions of the world to come crashing down on me.
“I traded my self-esteem for Christ-esteem…”
Since I’ve accepted Christ into my heart, the way I see myself has taken a turn. I accepted the pure fact that it was no longer about me and the way I saw myself. One of the first things the Lord used to speak to me about my “low self-esteem” was a song. See, the power of music and lyrics is vital to our minds. The famous “you become who you hang around” is true for music too. This may sound a little cliché for those who listen to KSBJ (Christian radio station), but when I was coming to Christ my desire to listen to secular music was immediately broken. I began to delete song by song on my phone because I’d listen to it and ask myself “how does this glorify God?” (but I won’t get into that, that’s a whole new topic, haha!) There’s a song by Mercy Me that the Lord used to speak to me about my identity in Him. It says:
“Days will come when you don’t have the strength
When all you hear is you’re not worth anything
Wondering if you ever could be loved
And if they truly saw your heart, they’d see too much
You are made for so much more than all of this
You are treasured, you are sacred
You are His
For all the lies you’ve held inside so long
They are nothing in the shadow of the cross
Such a POWERFUL song, it speaks God’s truth of you! I remember the first time I listened to it and it absolutely wrecked me and I broke down and cried. I realized I had been pleasing the wrong people and most of all: I had set my worth in what the world saw me as.
The LORD says: “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you” -Song of Songs 4:7
God says you have NO flaw in you. You are made in His image, not in the worlds. We are MADE to look like Him! So if that’s what He thinks about you, why should the opinion of others matter? You don’t need to be loved by the world or pleasing to the world.
“For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men (humans)? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.”-Galatians 1:10
It’s critical to know your identity in Christ and who God says you are. The enemy is out there to steal, kill and destroy your identity. It’s important to stir yourself up in His Word and cast out the opinions of others but also of our carnal mind.
“For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace, because the mind set on the flesh is hostile toward God”-Romans 8:6-7
Choose to believe His truths rather than the enemy’s lies! The enemy? Yes, the devil is a liar y’all! He will use anything in this world to get you to believe otherwise! It’s important to know God’s truths. So, what are God’s truths, you ask?
God says that you are…
- HIS! (Isaiah 43:1) You have absolutely nothing to fear. You belong to Him. He is your Father and you are His child. He is going to take care of you if you just let Him.
- MADE IN HIS IMAGE! (Genesis 1:27) Everything He has created, He created it and saw that it was good. You are good, believe it.
- LOVED! For God so loved the world (John 3:16) that He gave His one and only Son to die on the cross. God wanted to be reconciled to His children, He did everything it took to get what was His back. His Son was crucified for you. I don’t know a sweeter love than that.
- Fearfully and wonderfully made! (Psalm 139:14) He is who created you. He knew you before anyone else even thought of you. You are priceless to Him.
- You are precious and honored in His sight! (Isaiah 43:4) Don’t give away your worth, don’t put your worth in people who don’t value you. He sees you for so much more than you see yourself. Our Father thinks so highly of you! He honors your life and loves you so much more than anyone could ever love you! Don’t allow others to treat you any different, although they may, you know who you belong to! You may not be precious and honorable in the world’s eyes, but our God sees you for who you really are.
He knows your worth because He is your worth. So after reading this, my challenge for you is to look in the mirror (do it!) and speak what’s true about you. It’s easy to be led by your emotions, but the Lord provides peace when there is a renewing of your mind. “Remember that you should not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then, you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.” –Romans 12:2
Sis, today choose to believe the Gospel’s simple truth about yourself.
In His love,