No, sis, Jacob and I aren’t engaged… YET. But you know who did put a ring on it? Jesus. Today we celebrate a holiday that has commercialized “love” and all things red and pink, amirite? We celebrate Valentine’s Day, but this month also marks the 3-year anniversary of my engagement to Jesus. The moment I accepted Him into my life, we became engaged. Not only did He put a ring it, but He gave me something so much more valuable than a ring: hope for eternal life.
For the Word of God says, “He is given to us like an engagement ring is given to a bride, as the first installment of what’s coming! He is our hope-promise of a future inheritance which seals us until we have all of redemption’s promises and experience complete freedom- all for the supreme glory and honor of God!” (Ephesians 1:14 TPT)
I don’t know whether you’re married, in a relationship or single. Regardless of where you’re at, I want to remind you that no relationship you will ever have on this Earth will fill you up the way your relationship with Jesus can. Sis, if we don’t seek our relationship with JESUS first, any other relationship will fail. I learned that the hard way. I used to jump from relationship to relationship. I did NOT want to be alone, so I never really allowed myself to BE alone. Honestly, I don’t recall ever celebrating a V-Day by myself. I had no idea how to embrace my singleness.
In March of this year would be 3 years that Jacob and I would have been together (March was our original dating anniversary), but I believe Jesus wanted to teach me otherwise. I want to share my journey with Jacob because the Lord has taught me so much by being with him… AND by not being with him. In June 2016, Jacob broke up with me because he felt it very heavy on his heart that it was the right thing to do and we both needed to refocus on the most important source (Jesus). Yall, I was HURT. I am not exaggerating but in all honesty, I was so sad. Like man, I just met you, 3 months into dating, my relationship with Jesus is thriving, why now? I really DID NOT understand WHY in the world he was doing it, but he did. And I am so thankful that he was obedient to the voice of the Lord because I needed to grow through it.
We spent 3 months apart, June, July, August and some of September were some rough months for me. But my gosh, Jesus taught me so much about myself in those times that I became much more hungry for His presence in my life. He taught me how to be with Him before I desired anyone else. He taught me that if I couldn’t give Him my whole heart, I couldn’t give it to anyone else either. He taught me that there was so much beauty in SINGLENESS! Sis, the world will tell you the complete opposite. The world will tell you that you’re LONELY and that you NEED to be in a relationship with someone to feel complete. For some, V-Day only highlights the fact that you’re “lonely”, but that’s a lie from the pit of hell. When you’re absolutely rooted in Him, you’re never lonely. When you allow Him to become you’re all, everything else will seem so small and unworthy. I’m not sorry for the fact that I now refuse to be in a relationship “just because”, because I value my worth and I value the One who gives me my worth. Sis, Jesus already paid the high price for you to have THE BEST, why would you settle for LESS? If the guy you’re talking to isn’t talking marriage, then you’re wasting time sis, let em go. But also, don’t let this Valentine’s Day be another reminder that you’re single. Let it be a reminder that you are engaged to CHRIST and that’s only an installment of what’s to COME! Don’t dwell on the fact that you don’t have someone to love on, the grass is greener where you water it. Water your relationship with Jesus, go on dates with Jesus (not kidding, just you and Him, 2 cups of coffee or tea, whatever you prefer), love on Jesus, be intimate with Jesus!
I had to be stripped away of everything I thought I needed so that He could show me what I was really missing. If that’s you, drop whatever dude you’re casually “talking to” and take a step back to refocus. Every second of every moment counts, don’t wait until it’s too late, sis. I’m praying for you! Remember that when you take care of God’s business, He takes care of yours! Don’t sit around waiting for someone to help you move into the things He has for you. The more you wait, the more you delay. Press into Him before you press into anything else. The right one will come along at the right time. You’re worth more than rubies, friend.
In His love,